Cause of low self-esteem and how to boost it

There is always a case where a child or even an adult feels inferior of himself or herself, they feel less of themselves, unfulfilled or unimportant compared to others around them. Such people think that their opinion doesn't count in any case. They see themselves as a failure, unrecognizable and irrelevant to others or the society.

There is always a possible reason behind this or how it started; there is always a root cause to it, either during childhood or at infant age.

Here are the signs that you have a low self-esteem:

1. Lack of confidence in self: You don't believe in yourself, you don't believe in your ability or intelligence to handle issues by yourself.

2. Lack of control: You seems to lack control or personal decision over matters you should have stated it's fate.

3. You always compare yourself with others negatively: You see yourself always comparing yourself with others, and in turn feel inferior or unpromising before others.

4. You have problem asking for what you need or stating your demands: You find it difficult to express yourself, your feelings, your perspectives, your choice or your preference.

5. You find it difficult to accept negative feedbacks: You always get intimidated by negative feedbacks or attitudes that people give or show you. 

6. Negative self-talk: You always talk negatively about yourself, you always see yourself negatively, sometimes not worthy of people's kindness or respect.

7. You always over-fear failure: You always have unnecessary fear for failure: the fear of failing becomes so great that you become stagnant, without trying new things and progressing.

8. Poor outlook: You always look down on yourself, hence give less attention to yourself, dress anyhow, appear anyhow and treat yourself with little respect.

9. Lack of healthy personal boundaries:. You lack personal boundaries in life; you don't have the power to set and get people to know and respect your boundaries, privacy, values, your worth and personality.

10. Desire to always please others, regardless your own welfare: You always want to please others, you always do something to have people's acceptance, approval and recommendation.

11. An isolated lifestyle: You always separate yourself from people that matters, because you think you are not worthy of their company.

     How to improve your self-esteem:

1. The first thing is to even be aware that you have a low self-esteem.

2. Identify the possible reason behind it.

3. Figure out how to tackle and solve the root-cause.

4. Change your views over things and be optimistic.

5. Stop comparing yourself to others.

6. Develop a self-love of yourself.

7. Refuse to always focus on your failures.

8. Always count your successes and previous archievements.

9. Assess your thoughts, beliefs and have a change of mind where necessary.

10. Stop keeping company with those who always devaluate you, look down on you or that always like to ridicule you over your unfriendly predicament.

11. Always pray and hope on God for a change and a better tomorrow.

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